5 Helpful Tips To Make Long Distance Relationship Work

One of the most difficult things to endure is to be miles apart from the one person you want to spend every moment of every second with.

Many of us have been made to believe that distance is the “beginning of the end of any relationship” no matter how good it is.

Admittedly, it’s a threat and has appeared to be the major reason many relationships have crumbled overtime. However, distance isn’t always the one sabotaging your relationship.

Often more than not, it’s what you fail to do or what you do that you’re not supposed to that ruins your long distance relationship.

Fortunately, there are helpful tips and guides that are guaranteed to not only sustain but to also spice it up in spite of the distance, that is, if you’re willing to make it work.

1. Communicate effectively

Yes, we know, you have heard it a million times. That’s because it goes without saying- communication is key. Every relationship needs communication to survive but a long distance one needs it more.

Physical intimacy is an essential tool in relationships, the power of a breathtaking kiss, hands holding, ecstatic sex, cannot simply be overemphasized. Unfortunately, this is scrapped off when the relationship is long distance. Sad, isn’t it?

While communication cannot replace physical intimacy, it can make both of you understand how you’re feeling at a particular time. Send your spouse a text when you feel like doing the dirty things with them, tell them when you’re horny and wanna rip their clothes of. All this are helpful ways to keep the spark alive. In short, whatever you feel, communicate it with your partner.

Say good morning when you wake up and good night before you sleep. Tell them the silliest thing about your day, update them on your plans, plan your next visit.

Whatever you do, don’t ever go a day without an effective communication with your partner.

2. Avoid Over communication

While your long distance relationship will not survive on lack of communication, it may also wear out from excessive communication.

It’ true long distance relationship can bring with it sense of insecurity and some people simply use excessive communication to keep tabs on their partner and monitor their every move- now that would be a wrong thing to do. It only means you don’t trust them enough. And if that’s the case, do both of you a huge favor and call it quit.

It’s normal to miss them and want to be in touch 24/7, in fact the farther you are from your partner the more you long for them. This of course, is what often leads to excessive communication.

So, what do you do? Learn to miss your partner without having to give in to the urge of reaching out always. And if you must, a short text would do just fine.

3. Schedule a couple’s time

This is a great way to have an alone uninterrupted moment with your partner. It could be during the weekend or any other time as long as it’s convenient enough for both of you.

Engage in video call, play games together, read books and share your thoughts, recommend music, tell them the craziest thing that happened during the week, discuss when next you’ll be visiting and your anticipations. You don’t have to lose fun because of distance.

4. Don’t stay angry with each other.

There’s no doubt that rainy days will come. Perhaps, your partner missed your scheduled face time, or took hours to return your call or text and you can’t help but lash out at them when they couldn’t come up with a good reason for acting in such a way.

Learn to resolve fights as soon as possible. If you’re at fault apologize, if they are, make them realize how they’ve hurt you and explain what they can do to make up for it. If they really like you and want to make your relationship work, they’ll yield.

5. Enjoy your alone time.

Instead of spending the entire phase obsessing over how much you miss them and look forward to seeing them again, grab this opportunity and do something significant with yourself. Take up a hobby, learn a skill. Not only will this bring value to you it’ll send a message to your partner that you can be independent - and that my dear, is an attractive feature in every partner. It will only leave them craving you more.

Above all, stay honest, loyal and sincere to your partner. Be completely open and avoid keeping secrets. Secrets can sabotage your relationship faster than any other thing can.

Remember, distance isn’t what kills a relationship. It’s what you do (that aren’t supposed to) or fail to do that ruins it.