HOW TO BUILD TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP - Make Your Partner Trust You Again.

While it’s true that trust is the foundation and backbone of every relationship, it's also true that it's slow to build, yet so easy to lose.

We’ve all been there or seen it happen - one partner has been unfaithful, or maybe he/she almost did. But is cheating the only means of breaking trust? The answer is no. Trust can also be crushed when promises are broken, secrets are kept, lies are told, or as a result of manipulations.

So, the question goes, can trust, when broken, be rebuilt? Yes, it’s very possible but only when the significant partner is willing to try again. Though, rare, but some partners do give second chances. If you are reading this it’s safe to say that you and your partner have agreed to work on building a broken trust. Want to know my advice? Don’t mess it up!

In this article, you will learn 5 principles you can adopt to building trust again in your relationship.

So, let’s get right to it, shall we?

1. COME CLEAN

If you have passed this stage, then congratulations! It’s a great start. But if you are yet to, then this is exactly what you should begin with.

Go to your partner, admit your misdeeds, apologize, and reveal your intentions. It’s okay to be vulnerable. Let them know your decision and plan to build trust with them again.

By doing this, you create an avenue that gives them a good reason to believe you are making an effort as well as what to expect from you.

Tell them why you misbehaved no matter how ridiculous your reason may sound. The goal is to be as transparent as possible. If possible, tell them where and how they can help you through the journey. If they really desire to make it work again, they will surely find a way to offer their help when you ask.

So, don’t be afraid to seek help when necessary. The truth is, you can’t do it all on your own.

2. BE INTENTIONAL

In this twenty-first century, it’s become so easy to get lost and fall into temptations especially when you are the type with low self-control. To be intentional is to be disciplined. To never allow yourself to get carried away no matter how tempting the situation may be.

Building trust is a conscious effort particularly the one that has been broken before. It requires a continuous self-reminder of what you are committed to doing. By being aware of your decisions you stand a greater chance of shielding yourself from swaying again.

3. EMBRACE EFFECTIVE AND OPEN COMMUNICATION

Make no mistake; talking is entirely different from communicating. While it’s possible to talk without communicating, you can’t communicate 100 percent without talking. Effective communication means you are not just talking, they are hearing and understanding you. No secrets, no lies, and of course, no sneaking around even if your intentions are pure.

Plus, spend quality time together, go out, have fun. Get to know each other better as though you were just starting afresh. It’s a good way to spike dead feelings up.

4. KEEP THE TINIEST PROMISE YOU MAKE

At this point, your words are everything. Your actions will be used against you more, and offenses will be pointed out quickly even the ones that can be easily overlooked had the case been different. So, take note. Better not to make a promise than to make one and not fulfill it even if have a good reason for not making up.

5. BE PATIENT

Building trust again takes time and lots of effort. Much won’t happen too soon, so don’t expect it or you’ll be disappointed.

In fact, it’s safe to say that your every move might be watched and motives questioned unnecessarily. When this happens, it’s easy to get discouraged. But you must understand that it’s not the time and sure not a reason to get angry or be discouraged.

I mean, you can’t blame them, can you? Try putting yourself in their shoes and understand their feelings. You’d most likely do the same if the case was reversed.

So, in your journey of patience, don’t forget to embrace gentleness. Remember to show that you care for them genuinely.

Plus, no faking -be real. Remember this is a rare chance many people would die for, so you do not want to mess it up.

A fundamental element of any relationship is trust. This answers the question as to why it hurts so much when broken. But the good news is, with commitment from both partners to make the relationship work again, trust like almost any other thing, with time and efforts can be restored. And often times, in a stronger and much better way.