Self Love

1. Be kind to yourself when you have a setback. We all have setbacks and make mistakes. It’s just a natural part of going outside of your comfort zone and often a great way to learn. So don’t let the inner critic drag you down into feeling helpless. And don’t get stuck in beating yourself up for a week. Instead, be smart and be kind to yourself 2. Make a list of positive memories and spend a few minutes with it. Think back to the times when you felt good enough. To when you felt good about yourself and proud of what you had done. Or to the times when you felt lousy at first but took action even though it may have been hard and then you felt better about yourself. Write a few such memories down. And then just be with them for a little while. This list can also be helpful the next time you’re having a rough day. 3. Remember: what people share on social media is a high-light reel.

It’s pretty easy to get stuck in a comparison trap as soon as you pick up your phone these days. On Facebook and Instagram your friends, family and the celebrities you follow share a moment in their lives. And you may become envious or feel like you or your life is not any fun or not good enough in some way. But what’s important to remind yourself of when using social media is this: What people are sharing is a high-light reel of their lives. 4. Compare in an uplifting way.

When you compare yourself and your life to someone’s online high-light reel then you might not feel so good about yourself. And when you compare yourself to other people in general and their lives then that can quickly become a trap. Because there’s always someone in your circle of friends or in the neighborhood that has more than you or is ahead of you. So replace that with a habit that will both build motivation and move you towards high self-esteem… Start comparing yourself to yourself instead. See how far you’ve come. What you’ve overcome. 5. Make changes to surround yourself with positive and supportive influences.

Don’t just reduce the impact of destructive and self-esteem limiting sources in your life. Spend more time with people and sources that lift you up. And find new sources of positivity and self-esteem if you need to.