Sex Habits

1. Not wanting to talk about sex

If you don’t have good communication with your partner, that can really mess up your sex life. Intimacy requires good communication, and it is something that needs to be worked on constantly.

2. Assuming what works now will always work

Thinking that what works for you (and your partner) today will always do it for you in the long run is false. People change, and so do their sexual tastes, drives, and desires. Therefore refer back to the first point.

3. Thinking it doesn’t count if there’s not penetration

The truth is that there are many different activities and behaviors on the sexual menu, and you and your partner should enjoy all of them. The end goal is about each others pleasure attained.

4. Judging your partner’s fantasies

Sharing fantasies can be really vulnerable—for both partners. There is no “normal” in sexuality, so don’t assume a fantasy you or your partner might have is weird.

If you’re struggling with how to have these conversations without feeling uncomfortable , talk to a sex coach or a sex-positive therapist to help you become more open-minded and able to approach tricky situations in a more connected way.