Things To Do When You Get Bored In Your Relationship

Most of us grow tired with our everyday routines, including our connection with our partner, because we are human and we crave variety. But it can be easily remedied, with a little effort. Find Something To Look Forward To As A Couple If you two are doing the same thing day in and day out, you will start to feel bored and "stuck." So don't forget to plan something fun for the future, such as a vacation or a project you can work on together. Be Silly Together It's so easy to fall into a dull routine, especially when you've been together long-term. But you can always inject silliness back into your lives by making an effort to do so. If you're clowning around and trying to make each other smile, you'll be too busy laughing to be bored. Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone Solo Since trying something new by yourself is another way to breathe life back into your relationship, think about something you've always wanted to do, but have been putting off due to fear, and do it. While you might be wondering what improv or hair dye have to do with your relationship, it's all about trying something new, and the domino effect it can have on your relationship. By challenging yourself, you'll bring a new energy back to your life, which in turn will impact your partner. You'll have stories to tell, and a new sense of confidence for having overcome a fear. Make Date Night Obligatory You should have a set weekly date night, and it shouldn't just be a night set aside for some TBD event. You have two different ways you can go with this. You can sign up for something that is a mutual interest, a cooking class for example. Or, and I like this better, alternate weeks where one person chooses the activity, and the other person promises to go along with it. That way you'll both know there's not only a date on the horizon, but one that could potentially be a surprise. Relationships take effort, so don't feel bad about having to "plan" your fun. This trick will ensure you both have a good time and stay connected — and that'll leave little room for boredom. Get Your Adrenaline Pumping With Your Partner There's something to be said for a dose of adrenaline every now again, especially if you're both bored out of your minds. So think about what might get your blood pumping — like kayaking down a river, going to the top of a skyscraper, or even watching a scary movie — and give it a try. A thrilling experience, big or small, promotes the release of oxytocin, the bonding hormone often referred to as the love hormone. And once that's flowing, it's darn near impossible to feel "blah" about anything. Oxytocin is also essential in attachment, Bradshaw says. It quite literally bonds you, since your brains will experience the same rush of adrenaline as you "survive" something mildly scary together.