Too old to love or be loved: the woman perspective

There is a stereotype, it is popular and strong. It wears a hat of credibility born of popular affinity, and shoes of superstitions rooted in religious and cultural bias. This is a bias so strong that it keeps women rooted, paralyzed by fear and uncertainty with a dash of dependency. Forced to stay in corners, boxes, and corner boxes that assign roles and expectations at birth. Its like our lives are set in suppressive stone, from the moment it is confirmed that we are female.

With the growth of social media however, we have been privy to information about the lives of more women who are breaking these chains, shattering these glasses and soaring above limits in professional, personal and heath spaces. One of such glass is the idea that women

cannot find love in later years. Men on social media today consistently talk about how the dating and marriage “value” of a woman significantly reduces as she grows older. They in fact continue by saying that anywhere from the age off 50, women are no longer viable dating or marriage partners for eligible bachelors to consider. The problem with that narrative is found in the personalities of women like Jenifer Lopez, Cameron Diaz, Salma Hayek, Gwen Stefan etc... and if we were to say that these women made up for their age with their beauty and social status as celebrities, what do we say of women like Carol H. Mack who walks out of her marriage at age 70 and finds love again barely three years later, not only does she find love, she goes all the way and gains a sizeable rock for herself in a beautiful marriage proposal too.

An ordinary woman in her golden ages, walks out on a failing marriage because of infidelity and not only does she find love and happiness, she is due to be married again. She celebrates herself on her twitter page and many people were happy for her.

The thing is that so many myths about womanhood are getting debunked by the day. Or maybe it is women who are breaking out of the boxes that they have been put in for so long. Waiting till their 50s to get married, walking out of marriages at age 70 and finding love again right after, breaking new educational, political and career grounds. It is like this is the century of women, the century of disillusionment and awakening. If you’re reading this and are tempted to settle just because you fear that “age/time is not on your side” this is your cue to calm down and let your hair down. Don’t settle, if you have doubts... don’t do it, and if its abusive, cheating, hurtful, or just some other thing that makes you miserable, dump it. You are never too old to find love unless you are dead. If you are reading this, I’m going to take a leap and assume that you are alive and thus... perfectly able to find love. Cheers to that ladies.